Guide To Success On a Date

Valentine's Day is nearing. This post is for all of those who are still alone and don't want to be. Until now, I've wrote about what not to do on a first date. Change of tune - here are some tips how to succeed. (This is the last time, I promise!)

1. Be cool: It's very important to be relaxed. If you are always thinking about how you need a partner right away, you won't do much, because every object of your attention will feel the tension.

2. Choose a place: Before you go to action, think what king of person you would like to meet and pick appropriate place for it. Don't look for subtle charmer at a whacky party or party girl at the museum.

3. Smile: Smile and only smile is the most important rule. Of course, be natural. That way, you signal you affection and that you are ready to flirt.

4. Make eye contact: Look through your eyelashes is ideal introduction to flirting. Eye contact is a base of every courting.

5. Surprise your partner with something sweet: Date in a pastry shop can be fun. More direct approach is allowed, too. Go to object of your interest with two ice creams in hands. Who can resist that?

6. Be active: Go out as often as you can: in a park, bar or pool. You'll find people ready to flirt in such places.

7. Show interest: During conversation with that important person, occasionally repeat words which that person spoke. That way you show your interest in what that person speaks and that you carefully listen.

8. Use their name: Try to use the name of the person you are flirting with several times during conversation because you express rapport.

9. Dress properly: Cheerful and colorful outfit can help you to win over the person you are attracted to. It doesn't mean you should look like parrot, though.

10. Buy some flowers: This old trick always works: go to nearest flower shop and gladden us with colorful bouquet.

And now, let's nail down what we learned in previous posts...

5 ways NOT to flirt

1. Avoid old jokes: Don't start flirting with old courting jokes. You won't attract anyone with them and probably do more damage to your chances.

2. Don't insist on telephone number: Instead of persistent and unsuccessful efforts to make that interesting person give away cell phone number, better give yours. If that person is interested you won't wait for long for that SMS. Besides, it is good to turn off your phone during flirting because frequent ringing will be a distraction.

3. Don't talk too much: Two way communication is neccessary during the flirt. It means that you are not the only one who should talk but let the other side speak their minds. If you talk all the time we will loose the interest.

4. Avoid "scanning": Eye contact is welcome but not eye scanning. Women are very sensitive to men's heat to toe looks.

5. Go easy: Don't impose yourselves. Avoid "attacks" on a first date.

Enough of me for now and GOOD LUCK!