Tame Mother-In-Law Recipe

My dear ladies, on the very day we vow eternal love, fidelity and other stuff to our dear husband, we are not vowing only to him. Like it or not, we get one whole family in the package. With our mother-in-law at the helm. You can't live with her and you can't live without her.

I am proud to be among the lucky ones who found common ground with mother-in-law. There were brief moment of weighing willpower but.. we realized that it's better to collaborate. I can't say it's all nice. There are disagreements but nothing that morning coffee can't mend. Just for the record - we live under one roof.

I know there are many women who wage wars with mother-in-law years after the marriage. Why is that? Because she knows that she's not number one on his list. She feels threatened. Mother is scared that another woman will take care of her offspring and she will fail to hide the habit to control him.

All in all, such situations can be nerve wracking. But, try to put yourself in her shoes. Not all those mother-in-laws are bad and evil. They just can't handle the situation by themselves. They are aware that they jeopardize her son's marriage and they are pretty stressed about it. It's something stronger then them.

Here are few rules to make yours and hers lives easier:

1. Call her "mom": As dumb as it looks like, it will impress her and you'll score your first points with her immediately. I handled mine by calling her with only her name.

2. Call her on the phone: You don't need a reason to call her, it's enough to ask how she is doing. You shouldn't waste hours talking and gossiping. Keep it to the basics (how is she, how kids are fine etc...) It's not hard, imagine you have to see her very day, like myself. And I'm not complaining.

3. Don't criticize your husband in front of your mother-in-law: Be aware that she'll always take his side, no matter if he is right or not. That way you could humiliate him in front of his mother and her parenting skills will be questioned. Criticism is allowed only when you tame your mother-in-law. Even then, think twice what and when you'll say. You must not offend her!

4. I love my cuisine and respect hers: They are sensitive about that. Every woman has her own way of preparing food, so there are differences in this case, too. I was immediately open for her comments about how our meals are different and that some stuff she makes is better than mine. There is a trick also. I told her that I would love to taste her specialty and that I would love to have that recipe. That way everybody is happy and content and I still have my own way. I only use her recipes when she comes to lunch.

5. Grandchildren: As much as her views irritate you, try to maintain friendly relationship. She's still the mother of a man you married. Eventually, you'll have someone to watch for your kids. Who will better spoil them if not granny (candy before lunch and all those wonderful things we all grew up with)

If all else fails and you have a problem with your mother-in-law, don't argue with her but address your husband to take care of it. No woman should disturb your marriage, not even your husbands mother. Before any drastic measures try not to be the cause of the bad relationships. A little patience and it should work out.

Successful Marriage Tutorial

There are experts to teach you about marriage. I'll post about some things which matter to me and which are invaluable for my marriage.

1. We talk about everything: That way we get to know each other a little bit more each day; though I believe I know very much about my husband.

2. Respect: Respect is one of deepest human desires. I think that respect isn't something that is assumed. I try hard to show him respect every day by thanking him, commending and acknowledging him.

3. Discussion: We can argue but never alienate. Harsh words and yelling are not the answer. When there is argument - we discuss it.

4. Romance: Listening to the music is a good way to start your emotions. There is always a tune which reminds me about my husband and lovely moments spent with him.

5. Individuality: I'm aware that we are two separate beings and different in many aspects. I don't think it's wise to designate just one person for your own happiness. I try to be pleased with myself, to be responsible for my actions and finally for my happiness. My husband is there to make my life better.

These are my basic principles of successful marriage. You need to find your own solution and I hope these tips help.

Howto: Cheat Your Wife/Girlfriend

As you probably know by now, I'm a happily married wife. My husband has never cheated me and I don't encourage cheating by any means.

If you decided to cheat on your partner, at least try to do it the right way.

Here's what you should know before hurting your wife or girlfriend:

1. Don't avoid answering a phone: Don't avoid answering a phone when in company of other lady. They both will figure out that something is happening. First one will go nuts because you reject her calls and the other one will just know. Say it's your mom or someone from work and do a routine conversation.

2. Pick different locations: Dating places should be different to ensure no surprises. Find two favorite restaurants, two parks to hold hands in, and pray not to be caught by other lady.

3. Not in firm or neighborhood: The worst thing you can do is to have both ladies from the same environment. Then you are doomed for sure! Don't mingle within pay-list or tenants list.

4. Don't babble too much: Don't speak too much because you are essentially lying to two women. If you are not careful, you will not know what you said to whom. Women like some mystery - that makes you more interesting.

5. Protection: Practice safe sex for everyone's sake. It's the best way to stay out of trouble and ladies will not get uninvited "guests" of any sort.

6. Tree's a crowd: With two women you are the master juggler. With tree you are in trouble. Your schedule if tight even with two. With three - it's close to impossible. Why would you get yourself in trouble?

7. Not on the same day: Women can smell other women easily. They can smell even vague traces of perfume, which isn't their brand. I won't even mention other things. Best way is to have a full day for each lady. If you want to take chances, shower well, change all clothes and get some rest until next meeting.

8. On her outfield: Try to meet the ladies in their places and not in yours. Don't bring them home. There is always a chance of unwanted visit. Even if you want to take chances, carefully remove all traces left by ladies (sheets, clothing, jewelry,...) to avoid tears and apologies.

9. Keep track: Be sure to keep track of important dates, names, phone numbers and little things that ladies like or dislike because you can easily get confused by large amount of information. If you get confused - God help you!

Things you don't know can't hurt you!