Guide To Success On a Date

Valentine's Day is nearing. This post is for all of those who are still alone and don't want to be. Until now, I've wrote about what not to do on a first date. Change of tune - here are some tips how to succeed. (This is the last time, I promise!)

1. Be cool: It's very important to be relaxed. If you are always thinking about how you need a partner right away, you won't do much, because every object of your attention will feel the tension.

2. Choose a place: Before you go to action, think what king of person you would like to meet and pick appropriate place for it. Don't look for subtle charmer at a whacky party or party girl at the museum.

3. Smile: Smile and only smile is the most important rule. Of course, be natural. That way, you signal you affection and that you are ready to flirt.

4. Make eye contact: Look through your eyelashes is ideal introduction to flirting. Eye contact is a base of every courting.

5. Surprise your partner with something sweet: Date in a pastry shop can be fun. More direct approach is allowed, too. Go to object of your interest with two ice creams in hands. Who can resist that?

6. Be active: Go out as often as you can: in a park, bar or pool. You'll find people ready to flirt in such places.

7. Show interest: During conversation with that important person, occasionally repeat words which that person spoke. That way you show your interest in what that person speaks and that you carefully listen.

8. Use their name: Try to use the name of the person you are flirting with several times during conversation because you express rapport.

9. Dress properly: Cheerful and colorful outfit can help you to win over the person you are attracted to. It doesn't mean you should look like parrot, though.

10. Buy some flowers: This old trick always works: go to nearest flower shop and gladden us with colorful bouquet.

And now, let's nail down what we learned in previous posts...

5 ways NOT to flirt

1. Avoid old jokes: Don't start flirting with old courting jokes. You won't attract anyone with them and probably do more damage to your chances.

2. Don't insist on telephone number: Instead of persistent and unsuccessful efforts to make that interesting person give away cell phone number, better give yours. If that person is interested you won't wait for long for that SMS. Besides, it is good to turn off your phone during flirting because frequent ringing will be a distraction.

3. Don't talk too much: Two way communication is neccessary during the flirt. It means that you are not the only one who should talk but let the other side speak their minds. If you talk all the time we will loose the interest.

4. Avoid "scanning": Eye contact is welcome but not eye scanning. Women are very sensitive to men's heat to toe looks.

5. Go easy: Don't impose yourselves. Avoid "attacks" on a first date.

Enough of me for now and GOOD LUCK!

First Date Through Women's Eyes

I already wrote about this subject in posts "10 Things Women Don't Want to Hear On a First Date" and "What Women Ask Themselves on a First Date".

Here are some things you should show off on a first date.

1. Self confidence: You need to show that you are a man with a goal in his life. We look for a man who can provide to our family and take care of our kids. Rich, educated and ambitious fare the best. Even if you are not in these categories you should radiate self confidence anyway.

2. Your buddies: When in group men tend to behave like children. That's a turn-off. They compete with each other, try to say something faster, funnier and ruder than others. Women feel like they are from another planet in such company. No, don't abandon your friends but when on a date stay away from the pack.

3. Manners: To get a full picture about you, we will watch how you contact other people. Did you gave a small tip to the waiter? You're cheap. Did you make fun about fat man in the corner? You are rude. Did you hold the door to older lady? You are cool and she'll like you right away.

4. Money handling: It speaks volumes about you - and not just how you spend it. Wallet full of unordered bills - you are irresponsible. Fat roll of cash outside of wallet - you are showing off your wealth. Elegant leather wallet - you have both cash and style.

5. Call and action: To be more specific - your reaction to our subtle call. We are the ones who make a first move in most of the situations. Movement, smile, firm look... It's your move so watch your step. If you try to take initiative before the call, you are jeopardizing your chances of success.

I hope I've helped a bit with this post. If you have any suggestions please leave a comment to this post. All "naughty" comments are welcome, of course, but some might not get published...

10 Things Women Don't Want to Hear On a First Date

Since I've been through these things a lot, I decided to spare new generations of women by revealing what you should not say on your first date.

1. Detailed description of your latest illness or operation: We are very squeamish when blood, pain and stink is in question. No women likes to listen about those no matter what kind of "Brad Pitt" you are. This rule is void only if we met in a hospital.

2. Tech-talk: When you start tech-talking, the first thing that comes to mind is: "Either he is playing smart or he wants to make me look dumb." Besides, we probably will not have a clue what you are talking about.

3. Previous relationships: Don't talk about those because we will think that you are not over them yet. Even if you are, we will compare ourselves to her. No woman wants that.

4. Sports: Yes, we heard about Ronaldinho and Tom Brady but we don't discuss Soccer Champions League and NFL. Imagine if you needed to hear about detailed cookies recipe.

5. Travel problems: If you are not Indiana Jones don't bring up this subject. If you start talking about lost luggage at the airport, we will tell you all about bus station hygiene level. Boredom never ends.

6. What you did yesterday: Believe me, this is not very interesting unless you are Jim Carrey and you are just in the middle of making your latest movie and you can make funny faces. You need talent for that. Don't even bother to try!

7. Your car: We don't know engines and carburetors and stuff. There are mechanics for that so we don't need to think about it. I'll make an exception for a Ferrari maybe.

8. Pets: Don't overdo this subject. Just say you have one (or more). We could think that you have problems with relationships with humans.

9. People we don't know: Unless you met the Pope, gossiping about people we don't know will not bring you points. We will think that you are grumpy, desperate or violent when you can talk about that to a complete stranger (us).

10. Sex: Even if we bring up this subject don't talk too much. It's a test! You will give impression that you are desperate, childish, pervert and insecure.

It's a long list. I think you should be able to think of something that is not on this blacklist.